Sometimes life can be about the survival of the fittest, but in my experience of a long distance relationship, it was all about survival of the most resilient, patient and creative. Coming up with ways to remain close and have your own life can be exhausting, so I thought I would share a few ideas that may get you thinking …
Acknowledge the distance but do not make it all you talk about – it ends up sounding moany and can get te.di.ous
Go old school (sorry the teacher in me cannot bring myself to write ‘skool’) send a mix tape/playlist cd or Pandora link to a collection of music or send a letter … you know the kind of thing, something that takes a little bit of effort rather than the instant access modern technology affords us these days.
Learn how to be flexible with your time – you have to understand that life for both of you goes on in your respective time zones and having time for each other may be cut short, or difficult to fit in.
Take a moment for yourself – obviously the aim of an LDR is to actually spend time with one another, but you need not be defined by the fact you are in one. It is ok to have days where you get to do the things you want.
Got any other tips about surviving an LDR? What experiences have you had and what worked for you?