On my blog, whilst still in my LDR (long distance relationship), I wrote about how to get through the time and miles apart in the post Love At A Distance – Some Top Tips and how Hubby and I had dinner together in Long Distance Dinner Dates. I did not write much about how Hubby and I went on dates together, so I thought I would share it with you today.
I am no relationship expert, and every LDR is different, but here is what worked for my marriage when we were apart:
Take it seriously | I will start with saying that having time together, even though it may only be through the wonders of modern technology (phone, computer etc), do take it seriously. Invest time in preparing for the date and give it your full attention, with no interruptions, if possible.
Be organised | It may sound like it takes the romance out of the date by getting your diaries together to find when you can be together, but time differences, work schedules and everyday life make it necessary.
Ask them out | In order to inject a bit of romance, a formal request to go on a date really worked for us – things like ‘would you like to go for a meal/movie/walk’ etc.
Plan ahead | Make sure you have all you need to make the date a success. If you are having dinner together – have the food ready, if you are watching a movie – have it downloaded/rented/ready to go, if you are going for a walk – have all you need so you do not waste the time you have etc.
Ideas for a date | The following ideas can be done over the phone, via video chat or over a chat/message application (you can type things throughout the date), and are what Hubby and I did with the help of our mobiles and email (we did not have video chat):
- Have a meal together (cook the same thing if you want) and treat it like you are out together in a restaurant. You can position the phone or computer/video chat in front of you so you can talk to/see each other while you eat.
- Watch a movie/favourite television series together at the same time so you can discuss/react to things together over the phone or computer.
- Go for a coffee together. Visit a favourite coffee house and talk/video chat/message whilst there, but do try to do it without disturbing other people.
- Go for a walk and take photographs as you go to share with each other so you can be a part of what your loved one is doing.
No phone/video chat | If you do not have video chat, or you cannot use your mobile/phone for some reason, then you can still be romantic and have things that you can share. We would often do something and then send an email or letter/package with photographs or momentos. It does make things harder but it can be done. So do not give up!
I hope you found this useful, and if you have any further questions or ideas you want to share about your own LDR experiences, then please leave a comment.